Yet another message to my daughter...and my sons

I went for a run this morning and it was simply amazing. I run with an iPod most of the time, at least when I can find it and it is charged. A lot of the music on it belongs to my children:Black Eyed Peas, Rihanna, Cage the Elephant, and Sara Bereilles. I enjoy all the music as it is great for running and I feel I get to connect with my children on a new level by connecting through their music. Music is the voice of generations and their collective message often is communicated through their music. I love my children, their message, and their music.
The weather this morning was perfect, the sky was the bluest I've ever seen, the grass was its very greenest, the trees are freshly green with new leaves, and the torrential downpours of the weekend seem to have cleaned everything revealing startling beauty. The music was equally as interesting and I focused in on some of the lyrics which really struck a chord with me this morning. Sara Bereilles has a song, Fairytale, which is thought provoking and just lovely. I love the message in it and I love the song. A few of the lines really hit me and although I had never really thought about it until this morning, it's a message I would love for my children to hear it, too.

"You worry 'bout the maiden
Though you know she's only waiting
Spent her whole life being graded
On the sanctity of patience

And a dumb appreciation
But the story needs some mending
And a better happy ending
'Cause I don't want the next best thing
No, no, I don't want the next best thing"

I felt a little jolt this morning when I actually heard these lyrics. I heard the part about her spending her whole life being graded on the sanctity of patience and I felt a little twinge of contempt. My thoughts automatically went to feeling like a sheep which is herded or a character in a novel who is manipulated by those in power or who are seeking power into spending their whole lives doing the mundane or the repetitive in order to create a common good. I began feeling that perhaps patience is overrated. Perhaps the common good is also overrated. Maybe we have overrated common wisdom and old adages long enough.Maybe a person who is fulfilled and self confident doesn't have to wait and be patient for patient's sake. Maybe it's okay to jump when you get the chance, chase things down and conquer.
I don't want to be patient and wait because someone tells me it is a preferable character trait. I don't want that for my kids, either. I want them to chase dreams with abandon.I want them to make things happen, not let things happen to them. I feel it is good to be patient and wait for good timing, but it is preferable to spend that time making preparations and working toward the goal. I want happiness for my kids, John and me and I don't think that is found waiting.